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Welcome to the Jason Moss Show, where established online business owners go to increase their income, freedom and impact.
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I'm your host, jason Moss.
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Let's dive in.
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So here's the truth.
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I've been growing online businesses for close to 20 years now.
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I've been doing this a long time, but when I look back over the course of my journey as an online entrepreneur and I reflect on what the biggest challenges have been for me, there is one thing that has consistently tripped me up more than just about anything else when it comes to growing my business, and that thing is messaging.
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I hear this almost every day from online entrepreneurs all over the world, in every niche imaginable.
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How do I communicate in my content?
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I feel like I'm missing clarity on my message.
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I'm not sure what words to say in my posts, my emails, my content to attract the kinds of clients that I want.
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The truth is, if you're feeling this way, you're not alone.
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There's so many people out there who can teach you marketing strategy, and there's so much information about where to show up, what platform to use, whether or not YouTube ads are right for you or Facebook ads or doing a Facebook group.
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There's so much information out about that that it'll make your head spin, but I think there's very few people out there who are teaching messaging, who actually understand what it really takes to lead people from stranger to client through your words, and if you've ever wondered how to do that more effectively, if you feel like maybe you're missing clarity or you're not attracting as many of the clients that you want, or maybe you're not attracting the right clients through your content, you're attracting people who can't afford you or people who have a million questions or are hard to work with.
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A lot of this comes down to the quality of your messaging, and in our episode today, I'm super pumped because we're going to be diving into messaging in detail and I want to share with you a few of the biggest lessons that I've learned that will help you dial in your messaging so that you can attract more of the types of people you really want to work with more consistently and grow your online business as a result.
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Super pumped to share this with you and, by the way, this is a small segment of our three-day marketing workshop, which we just wrapped up last week, not kidding you when I say this was the most valuable workshop I've ever run.
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I actually texted my mentor afterwards.
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I was like I feel like maybe we gave too much away.
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There's so much value there for you if you're wanting clarity on your marketing as a whole, if you're wanting to know the biggest strategies, the tactics, the things that I use with so many of my high-level clients, things that I've done to sell over a million dollars of coaching, consulting courses online.
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Literally, I walked through the whole roadmap inside that workshop.
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It's just, it's insanely valuable, and this messaging training that we're gonna be talking about today is really like a small segment of that larger workshop.
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The recordings from this workshop are now available to purchase on my website.
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So if you want to go through this workshop, you can check that out and go to jasonmosscom.
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There should be a link at the top that says workshop.
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You can just click that and you can get the details on how to sign up for that Insanely valuable and I would highly recommend signing up.
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So let's talk about messaging today.
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The first thing I want to talk about is the goal of great messaging, because a lot of people don't understand why they're creating content or why they're showing up and posting, and they know they need to write words in order to attract people, but they're just showing up and creating a bunch of random things because they don't really understand the goal of great messaging.
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And once you understand this, it makes it so much easier to reverse, engineer and say, okay, well, how do I need to show up on a daily basis in my content in order to reach this goal, in order to do this effectively?
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So the goal of great messaging, I see, is very simple.
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The goal of great messaging is to take strangers and to turn them into clients.
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When you're doing your messaging well, this is what you're doing.
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You're basically leading people by the hand from I have no idea who you are to here's my credit card.
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And that journey from stranger to client is really about connecting somebody to a specific set of beliefs.
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In other words, when you first met me, you were probably like who is this random person on my Facebook feed?
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Maybe you clicked an ad of mine?
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You're like it's just another business coach, just someone else trying to sell me something.
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We have no trust, no relationship, and at some point through maybe listening to my podcast or maybe watching some of my free videos or wherever else you've been engaging with me you had a moment where you realized this guy actually knows what he's talking about.
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This guy actually has expertise.
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This guy can actually really help me.
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That is an example of a belief shift.
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Right Before, you didn't believe that you just thought I was some random dude on the internet, and then, through the power of my content content, through showing up in a certain way, I've been able to shift that belief in your mind, to be able to create that moment where you said, oh, this guy actually really knows what he's doing.
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So that is an example of a belief shift, and what we're doing through our messaging is really nothing more than shifting beliefs.
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It's connecting somebody to a specific set of beliefs, things that they need to believe in order to want to buy from you.
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And so when you're doing a good job through your messaging, this is what you're doing and, as a result, you're leading someone by the hand, taking them from I have no idea who you are to becoming client over time through your messaging, through your content.
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This is the goal of all great messaging.
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If you're doing messaging well, this is the result.
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So understanding this really helps you focus your efforts, because you're not guessing.
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When you're showing up, it's like okay, I know what I'm doing here.
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Now the question becomes well, how do I actually do that?
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That's what I want to talk about today.
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So, when it comes to great messaging, there's one phrase that I think really sums up how to message effectively, and this one phrase, if I would have known it earlier, honestly would have made me hundreds of thousands of additional dollars in my business.
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It's kind of nuts how simple this makes messaging, and I think if I had 15 seconds with you to share with you, like what is the most important thing you need to know about your messaging in order to attract the kinds of people that you want consistently, these two words, this phrase really two words would sum it up.
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So what is this phrase?
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Well, it is be the likable guide.
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I guess that's four words, but likable guide, those are the two words.
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Likable guide that is the whole point of your messaging to show up and position yourself as what I call a likable guide, and this sounds very simple, but it's actually there's a lot of nuance here, and I want to unpack this a little bit, because when you're doing this, well, when you're showing up as a likable guide and this sounds very simple, but it's actually there's a lot of nuance here, and I want to unpack this a little bit, because when you're doing this well, when you're showing up as a likable guide, this is really the key to helping connect somebody to the things that they need to believe in order to want to work with you.
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So there's two words here likable and guide.
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They both mean completely different things, and so I want to break down each of these in detail and show you how you can apply this to your messaging to show up more powerfully and magnetically in your content and in your post.
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So the first word here is likable.
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Pretty simple we want to do business with people that we like.
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We don't want to do business with anyone.
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We don't want to just do business with people who we know can help us solve our problems.
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We want to do business we feel connected to.
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We want to do business with people we feel connected to on a deep level, on a human level.
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So the goal of your messaging part of the goal is to build likability, a personal relationship and connection between you and your audience, the person on the other side of the screen who's watching your videos or reading your posts or your emails.
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Likeability is the foundation of building a magnetic personal brand, and when you do this well, there are a number of things that happen as a result.
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The first thing, probably the most important thing, is that you de-commoditize yourself.
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So many people wonder.
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Important thing is that you de-commoditize yourself.
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So many people wonder I'm doing the same thing as everybody else?
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Essentially, I'm selling the same thing as everybody else.
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If I'm a health coach, I'm selling.
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You know, here's how to lose weight.
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There's 5,000 other people who are selling the same thing and maybe we have, you know, slightly different methodologies and certainly that's a way you might differentiate yourself, right, but essentially we're kind of selling the same outcome.
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So how do I stand out, how do I differentiate myself in a space where there's so many other people who are doing essentially the same thing as me?
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Well, here's how you do it.
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You do it by building likability and this is the realm of your personal brand.
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So bringing the fullness of who you are into your messaging allows somebody to form a personal connection and relationship with you, which actually de-commoditizes you.
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Because when someone connects with you on a human level, where they have that moment where it's like you're not just a business coach, but you're the only person for me, because not only do you help people grow their businesses, but you're also really spiritual and you're also someone who really likes hiking and dogs and lives in Colorado, and we have this deep human connection.
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We share values.
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We feel like we have this common ground between us that is so much more than just the fact that you can help me double my income or revenue in my business.
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That is, when you create a moment for someone else where they go, you are my person and when someone has that moment, you are in a class of one.
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You are not in the class of the 5,000 other health coaches who are doing the same thing as you are.
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You're the only for that person, which means you can charge a lot more, which means you stand out, which means you don't get on calls with people who just want the lowest price because price is not the primary decision point for them.
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In other words, you know, if I have a choice between different commodities, if I see you as the same as 10 other health coaches or 10 other consultants, then why would I not want the cheapest price?
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That's the only factor that you've essentially given me, because your messaging isn't good to make that decision.
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So if you're getting people on calls with you who are just looking for the lowest price.
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It's a sign or symptom that you haven't done a good enough job building likability and decommoditizing yourself as a result in your business.
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So likability building likability is really about doing this and this is where bringing you into your business and your personal brand fully into your business, your own humanity, into your business, is the key.
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So there are really two components to likability, two core components to doing this.
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Well, the first is relatability.
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When you can show up in a way, through your messaging that you create common ground between you and someone else, you establish what's called relatability.
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As an example, I go to Orange Theory out here in Boulder, colorado, and I just signed up a couple of months ago.
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I'm really enjoying it.
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It's for anyone if you've never been, it's like a workout class.
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It's pretty intense and they have like a coach who runs the class and a bunch of people show up and it's like some weights and some treadmills and all that and you got like a heart rate monitor and it puts on the screen.
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Anyways, it's not like an Orange Theory commercial.
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This is just.
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I like Orange Theory, I think it's fun and so I go to this class and you know there are different trainers and coaches who run the classes.
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But there's this one coach her name is Bree who teaches some of the classes, and I always liked Bree.
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I thought she was a good coach.
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She was very motivating.
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But one day after class I was talking to somebody and they said did you know that Brie used to live in Livermore, California, and Livermore is where I used to grow up.
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I well, I grew up in Danville, which is right next to Livermore in California, it's like 20 minutes away, and as soon as this person told me this, I had this moment of like.
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Oh, I just feel so much more connected to Bree.
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I like her so much more.
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And I don't even know her.
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And the truth is, living in Livermore is like such a bland generic.
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It's like there are like thousands of people who grew up near me.
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You know thousands of people who who grew up near me.
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You know hundreds of thousands of people who grew up near me.
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But just knowing that she grew up near me created this moment where I had this like this thing of like I like you so much more.
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It doesn't make any rational sense, but just knowing that thing about her made me feel more connected to her.
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So this is really what you're doing in your content and your messaging, where you're showing people who you are.
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You're bringing aspects of yourself to the table.
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You create all these little touch points and opportunities for someone to say, oh, I also feel that way or I also used to live there.
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I also feel connected to that.
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This is why talking about yourself is so important and sharing all those things that don't actually feel like directly related to the surface level thing that you do Talking about where you live, talking about your values, talking about your beliefs and talking about things that really bug you and talking about and showing up authentically and honestly as yourself and a lot of this, too, is about being polarizing, not by trying to be polarizing, but by dialing up the things that make you different and not being afraid to show people fully who you are.
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A lot of people, myself included, struggle with this, and I'll just speak on a personal level.
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The thing that makes this hard for me is I'm always afraid of turning people off.
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I think it's a very natural human feeling that we want to be liked, and the way that that manifests in a personal brand and in messaging is this very bland, generic, palatable personal brand where you're showing up in a way where it's just kind of like you're building this very surface, surface level connection with everyone, pretty much Instead of saying what are the things that I'm afraid to share, because I knew if I shared them, there's going to be a percentage of my audience who are going to be like screw this person, I need to unsubscribe.
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Like, for example, I sent an email a while back on my thoughts on Donald Trump and I was like this guy's crazy, like he's the last person I will want to be president, and you might be listening to this and maybe you're a Donald Trump fan and you like I'm probably not going to listen to Jason anymore.
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That's fine, you know, okay, I respect that.
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Or maybe you're like wow, thank God that Jason had the guts to say that, and also I feel that way too.
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And now I feel so much more connected to Jason because I see him as not just this, like bland generic business coach, but we also have this like common ground around, like our political beliefs.
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So that's an example of sharing something that, on a certain level, is like there's some vulnerability there.
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I mean, I've shared it enough that I don't feel a lot of tension around it anymore.
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It just feels kind of neutral for me.
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But I remember when I sent the email on initially I was like, ooh, this is going to ruffle some feathers and I got like 500 people unsubscribed and I also got like a hundred emails back from people who were like I need to work with you now.
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Thank you so much for saying this.
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This is like the best email I've ever gotten from you.
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So what relatability is about is getting out of this land where we're trying to be everything for everyone and whitewashing all of the parts of you that make you polarizing and magnetic to a small percentage of people and being boldly, unapologetically yourself.
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What you want is for 10 people to follow you and seven people to be like this person's crazy I need to unsubscribe and like three people to be like this person's amazing.
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Versus what most people do in their personal brands is they create this kind of whitewashed, bland, generic personality that they show the world.
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They just show people the things that are like okay, they're not gonna piss anybody off, and then, like everyone kind of is like oh, I kind of like this person, but I don't really have a deep opinion or perspective on them.
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That's not the kind of messaging that gets you clients, or it's the kind of messaging that gets you what I would call transactional buyers People who are just coming to you for the surface level thing that you do, but they're not soul aligned clients.
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There's a big difference between these two things.
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When you show up and you bring the fullness of who you are into your content, what you do is you create soul aligned clients, which are clients that are not just coming to you because they want the surface level thing that you can help them with, but clients that are coming to you because they feel connected to you on a human level.
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And these are the kinds of clients who not just buy from you once, but buy from you again and again and again.
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They're the kinds of clients who have much lower refund rates, who have much better experiences, who you enjoy working with on a much deeper level, who you wake up in the morning you're like thank God, these people are in my world.
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I love my clients today, the people who work with us inside our accelerator program or one-to-one with me the best clients I've ever had.
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So many days.
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I wake up.
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I'm like I can't even believe I get paid to do this, and all of this has been a result of understanding this concept of likability and relatability as it relates to that, and bringing myself more fully into my messaging, into my content, showing people more of who I am, creating more of those touch points and those moments where I can establish relatability with others Not everyone, but the right people in my audience.
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So how can you bring more of who you are into your messaging?
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How can you show people more of the parts of yourself that maybe you're afraid to share?
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Great questions to journal on and ask yourself.
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Now, relatability, which we just talked about, is one component of building likability in a personal brand and your messaging, but there's another piece of this as well, which is celebrity, and celebrity is kind of the counterforce to relatability.
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Relatability establishes common ground.
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It makes people feel close to you because it makes them feel like they're kind of on the same level as you Like.
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We share interests, we share values, we share beliefs.
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Celebrity is all about this pedestal moment, and when you can create celebrity through your messaging, what you do is you allow somebody to have that moment where they look up to you and they see you as someone that they wanna aspire to be like when we look at who we follow on social media, who we engage with online, who we want to surround ourselves with as human beings, what you'll find is we surround ourselves with people who share our values and our beliefs, in other words, people who we relate to, people who are like us.
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We also surround ourselves with people who we want to be like, people who represent a possibility for our lives, a possibility for ourselves that we haven't fully stepped into yet, a part of us that we aspire to be.
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Maybe we're leaning into, but we're a little afraid we're not fully there yet.
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I want to surround myself with multiple seven-figure, eight-figure entrepreneurs, because that's where I'm going.
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I'm not quite there yet.
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In my business, I'm doing very well, but we're not there yet.
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So being in a room with people like that is expansive for me.
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It helps ground me more fully into who I really want to be, and the same thing goes for your ideal clients and for the people in your audience.
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We're always feeling magnetized and attracted to those people who we see as people we aspire to be more fully like, and so when you can create celebrity in your business, what you do is you kind of put yourself on a pedestal a little bit and you create a lot more magnetism in your messaging.
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So this could be as simple as I mean.
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I'll give you an example.
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In our business I talk a lot about how much money I make you know, $100,000 launch we just had as an example.
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Or having a private chef that used to cook all of our meals.
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These are examples of things that like showcase a lifestyle that I think for many people there's an element of luxury to it.
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There's an element of like wow, like that's awesome, Like if I'm not there yet in my business, like I maybe feel a little triggered by that cause, I'm like I judge that, but I actually secretly wanna be that.
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This is what you'll often find with celebrity.
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There's this kind of like push pull tension.
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I'm like I judge that, but I actually secretly want to be that.
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This is what you'll often find with celebrity.
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There's this kind of like push-pull tension, like we tend to kind of like judge the thing when on a deeper level, we really want it.
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So there's this magnetic kind of tension that's created and you showing up in that way where you start to show people aspects of yourself that represent aspects that they aspire to be, aspects of yourself that represent aspects that they aspire to be.
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So this oftentimes is as simple as just asking yourself like well, who do my ideal clients really want to be?
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If you can really reflect on, like, what is that identity or what is that self that this person really wants to step into, and how can I show that through my content, through my messaging?
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And if you're a health coach, you're helping people lose weight.
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Seeing you prancing around the beach in a bikini and looking like a supermodel is probably going to create some tension for the people in your audience, but it's also going to create magnetism.
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It's going to make people feel like they want to pay attention to you because they aspire to be magnetism.
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It's going to make people feel like they want to pay attention to you because they aspire to be like you.
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They aspire to feel that way, to feel confident, to be able to have that kind of a body, to be able to walk around and feel just confident in their own skin.
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Seeing you embodying that is a moment of celebrity.
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You're creating that distance.
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So these are examples of how you can do this in your messaging and when you do this well, when you balance these two elements celebrity and relatability in terms of how you're showing up in your messaging.
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What you do is you create that moment where someone feels magnetized to you.
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You decommoditize yourself, you create deeper connections and personal bonds and relationships with the people in your audience.
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And you again, the whole I think, point of all of this is you create that moment where someone says you're my person.
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And when someone feels that way and special credit to Scott Oldford who really helped me understand this, one of my mentors, who I've been working with for years awesome business mentor when you create that moment for somebody else, you can charge a lot more.
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You know, it doesn't.
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People are not comparing offers.
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They're not like oh well, yours has six features and theirs has eight features, so I'm going to go with the eight features.
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No, no, no, no.
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People don't think like this when they have that moment of connection and relatability with you.
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So this is the goal of building likability.
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So, on a practical level, what is this about?
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It's about showing people who you are, bringing the parts of yourself more fully into your messaging, sharing your values, your beliefs, your personality, your lifestyle.
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Also showing up honestly and vulnerably.
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This is another piece Sharing the things that you're afraid to say, the parts of yourself that maybe you feel are embarrassing or that you have shame about.
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You know, when I talk about some of the failures I've experienced in my business, I mean some of these things are still alive for me, like you know they're, they're they're challenging times.
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I mean this season for us.
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I'm, as I'm teaching this, I'm like there's always this voice in me that's like how can you embody this more fully in this moment?
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It's been a really challenging season for me as an entrepreneur.
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That's the honest truth.
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We've been going through, like I mean, the last six months have been like a major pivot in our business.
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I feel like we're still getting our footing like underneath us in this new space and it's been a challenging, difficult season.
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Also on a personal level.
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Like we moved from Denver to Boulder and it's been very expansive for me to like step into a new self, a new identity, to, to move into a home that is, you know, much nicer and is there, in many ways, a representation of like who, who I'm becoming.
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But there's a part of me that like, if I'm being honest, that I feel like I haven't fully, like really anchored into that yet in myself, like I'm still kind of holding the tension between who I was and who I'm becoming.
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It's a hard place to be, and so that has been alive.
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For me as an entrepreneur, like the last few months Hasn't been an easy season.
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It's been one of the most challenging seasons I've had since I started my business.
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So, sharing vulnerably like talking about those things that you're afraid to share, building more of that relatability and connection by being a human being I think a lot of this is about that Not being afraid to show people who you are All of this builds trust.
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It builds connection.
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It creates that moment where people again feel more connected to you and ideally, they have that moment where they go.
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Now back to the episode.
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Going back to this idea of being a likable guide, positioning yourself as a likable guide.
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This likable wing is so important and if you don't have this piece in place, you're going to have a hard time.
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But there's another piece to this, which is the guide piece.
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This is oftentimes what a lot of folks I see online really struggle with, and this piece is equally important.
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You got to balance both of these things in your business the likable and the guide.
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The guide is essentially showing up in a way that positions you as someone who can guide the person in your audience from where they are today to where they want to be.
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Someone has to see you and they have to go.
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You're the expert.
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You're the person who can help me.
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You know your stuff.
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I'm confident that you have the skills, the knowledge, the expertise to be able to take me from where I am today and help me go from where I am today to where I want to be.
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If you just show up as likable all day, you're just sharing lots of personal stuff about yourself.
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People are going to be like, oh, you're amazing, but they're never going to pay you any money.
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You know there's plenty of friends I have that I really like them, but I never hire them.
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So this other piece is equally important, which is showing up in a way that communicates your expertise, your authority, your ability to help people solve a problem, and how do you do this?
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There's really a couple of components.
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The first thing is a lot of this comes down to creating a moment and moments in your messaging where other people feel like you understand what they're going through and seen and heard through your messaging.
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What this really comes down to is about reflecting back to your ideal clients, their challenges, their problems, their dreams, their desires through your messaging in a way that holds up a mirror to their life experience.
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In other words, if I were to say to you do you ever feel like you're just missing clarity when it comes to growing your online business, like you're amazing at what you do?
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You know you can help people.